One of the significant impacts of insecure attachment, ie, attachment trauma, is the implicit beliefs about ourselves that arise from it. These beliefs tend to be of a very similar nature, along the lines of, there’s something wrong with me, I’m unlovable, I’m broken, nobody loves me, I’m bad, and, i have to hide my brokenness. These beliefs develop very … [Read more...] about Insecure Attachment – Why Understanding it is Important
Most people are now familiar with mindfulness as a meditation practice, but how does mindfulness in therapy work? How is it that the mindful presence of another in a therapeutic or just humanly intimate setting can facilitate the emerging and potentially healing and integration of the wounding within us? What is it about the presence of a compassionate … [Read more...] about Mindfulness in Therapy
What I’ve come to understand is that trauma is created when, and wherever we have created separation in ourselves. Separation is created when we have had any kind of experience where our feeling response was traumatic, meaning more painful, or fearful than we were able to tolerate in that moment. Our response was to separate from ourselves ‘in’ the … [Read more...] about Understanding Trauma
Mindfulness in English is referring to the Pali word sati used as a central tenet of the Buddha’s teachings some 2500 years ago. Sati does not easily translate into English and mindfulness has become common parlance as an approximation of the subtler connotations of awareness, attention and remembering. As such there are varying interpretations of the … [Read more...] about What Is Mindfulness & How Is It Healing?